There are different reasons why your kid doesn’t follow instructions, from the absence of abilities to do certain errands, to trouble preparing words, to the absence of inspiration. A good mnemonic to remember for this is ‘HASH SUCCEED’, According to Dr. Arif Khan. If you have a child with autism who is not listening to your instructions or you’re unable to get a particular instruction across, these are the things you need to think about.
Hearing: It is possible that the child may not have been able to hear your instructions, request, or very little information is filtered through.
Anxiety: We know that almost all children with autistic spectrum disorder suffer from a lot of anxiety and your child’s anxiety might be related to a similar instruction that he/she received in the past.
Skills: The child may not have the relevant skills. Find gross motor skills for that particular task to know if your child possesses that skill.
Hunger: If a child is hungry or tired he/she may not be able to listen to your instructions and follow them.
Sensory phenomena: If the task is sensory overwhelming, he/she might avoid that task.
Understanding: The child is not able to understand or comprehend the instructions that you’re saying or giving them or the way in which you’re delivering might be a problem.
Context: Your child might have understood the instructions but would not be able to relate it to the context that you’re expecting him/her to follow that instruction.
Criticism: If your child has been criticized for this in the past, in the school atmosphere, in the class atmosphere, or anywhere because he was not able to follow that instruction, he/she would avoid it this time.
Expectation: The expectation of the child might be too high for him/her. The child just wouldn’t bother because he/she knows that it cannot be done.
Error: He wants to escape errors. He might have made a major mistake last time for which he was put down or punished, so he will refuse to do it.
Physical Discomfort: The task causes some kind of discomfort for him and he would just refuse it.
Also keep in mind that, at the point when your child accomplishes something you requested that she/he does, praise and compliment the child! A few kids, contingent upon the seriousness of their disability or level of inspiration, may require extra fortification, for example, stickers, a most loved bite, or a most loved toy as a prize.